When you like the person you are, making life choices becomes easier because you trust your judgment. You recognize that you have the power to create whatever it is that you want for yourself and your family.
Try these strategies to raise your self-esteem:
- Stay in tune with your thoughts. Notice when you’re thinking negatively about yourself. When you can identify the types of situations in which you tend to put yourself down, you can then do something about them. Remember back as far as you can to the first time this happened. Try to find the root cause of these feelings. Once you find the root cause, you can discover other ways to deal with the situation and come away with a win instead of repeating the old thought cycle.
- Squelch unhelpful thinking. After you take notice of the situations that trigger those negative thoughts, you can set out to stop such thoughts or at least divert them. Do so by developing an imagery technique.
- Imagine a stop sign and tell yourself to “stop negativity now.”
- Visualize that you’re at the beach or your grandmother’s house, where you always feel relaxed and self-assured.
- Another way to quell unwelcome ideas is to seek out something positive in the situations you find challenging. For example, if you feel you’re socially inept, make it a point to help others open up to you by asking questions about their work or hobbies. You’ll likely find some common ground for a great conversation.
- Learning to stop negative thinking increases your self-confidence and emphasizes that you choose your path rather than a recurring, unfocused thought pattern.
- Recognize your strengths. Occasionally reflecting on what you’re good at will help you see that you’re cherished, important, and helpful to yourself and others. List everything you can think of that you do well. Be generous. If nobody makes a ham sandwich the way you do, write it down. If you consistently win at golf, include it.
- Make your list longer and longer. Keep adding to it. Challenge yourself to add one strength a month to your list. As your list grows, so will your positive feelings about yourself.
- Underscore your unique or quirky aspects. If you can recite the name of every major Manga comic book or all the elements on the periodic table, you’re a truly unique individual. Embrace these special talents with the care and attention they deserve. Plus, there’s likely someone out there looking for the off-beat talent or knowledge you hold.
- Accept your positives and negatives. Learn to accept the parts of you that you’ve tried to reject in the past. See those less desirable aspects as insurance that you’re a member of the human race.
- Personal acceptance helps you see that everything in life has a delicate balance and it takes all parts of you to create that very special “you”.
- Stay focused and live your best life. Although it’s wise to be aware of your less than positive aspects, focusing on the good things will help you excel and continue accomplishing your goals. Keep moving ahead.
- Every morning, decide to be in a “good mood.” It’s a lot easier to accept who you are when you feel good about this day. Open yourself to the possibilities around you. If you have trouble staying positive, remember things that inspire gratitude. Gratitude will shift your mood to positive.
- Set goals that you want to accomplish. Rather than working toward what your parents or friends think you should do, search within yourself for what you’d like to work for in life and then go for it. Life is a lot more fun when you choose what you want.
Liking yourself allows you to share with others all the good you have in your heart. And the more you do, the more positive energy you have flowing into your life. Set out today to put these tips into action. You’ll enjoy your best life ever!
Author Bruce Black wrote, “Setting your intention is like drawing an arrow from the quiver of your heart.”
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