Perhaps aside from the most successful people in the world, we all sabotage ourselves. Some wait until they’re close to success, while others sabotage themselves before they even take the first step. The causes are the same regardless of when it occurs.
The world is tough enough without taking on the role of the greatest obstacle you face in life. You’re also the toughest opponent to beat.
Sadly, very few addresses this issue in their own life. Putting an end to this behavior gives you a huge advantage over everyone else. Once you get out of your own way, the obstacles dissolve.
Avoid self-sabotage and enjoy more success with these strategies:
- Think about your goals. Make you uncomfortable? The best predictor of your ability to follow through on a goal – how uncomfortable you feel. If you think about achieving your goal and only have positive feelings, you won’t sabotage yourself. But, if you get that queasy feeling, you know you have some work to do.
- Visualize positive outcomes. Imagine everything turns out well. When you start predicting the worst outcomes, you have issues. Plan for potential pitfalls while avoiding overwhelming yourself with worries.
- Handle the worst. Consider the possible issues and determine how to handle them before they occur – one time only! Doing this every day sabotages your efforts.
- Avoid making decisions when stressed. Emotional stress causes quitting just before attaining your goals. Decisions made in this mental state often focus on releasing the emotional stress, instead of considering the future ramifications. Avoid big decisions until you’ve had a chance to calm down.
- Avoid starting “tomorrow.” Tomorrow never comes! It’s a moving target always conveniently out of reach. Once you set a goal, start toward it today. How many times have you “tomorrow-ed” yourself? You can say the same about starting on Monday or the first of the month.
- Keep your mental chatter positive. Some experts say we have up to 50,000 thoughts each day. Most of them fail to support or encourage. Change that!
- Notice how you sabotage yourself. Do you suddenly quit or procrastinate? What do you do to sabotage yourself? Knowing your tendencies helps you recognize when your efforts go off the rails. If you see it coming, you can do something about it.
- Stop fearing failure. You’ve failed at other things. How bad was it, really? Probably not that bad. Learn from your undesired outcomes and try again. That’s 90% of success in life.
- Build your self-esteem. Some people self-sabotage because they lack belief in themselves. Like yourself, want the best for yourself, and then do the best for yourself.
Believe in your self-worth, and you’re halfway to success. Failure is a part of life, even a necessary part of life. You become more knowledgeable and capable with each failure. Study yourself and notice how you sabotage yourself. Deal with it right away when it happens.
Self-sabotage is a common behavior. Part of your brain perceives it as a way of protecting yourself. Take a stand against self-sabotage and put an end to it once and for all.
To take this a step further, allow your spirit to lead. Your spirit will never sabotage, mislead, or trick you into anything other than your good. The results of spirit leading the way far surpass that of the ego.
If you decide to give spirit a chance to improve your life in every possible way, contact Inthirani Arul, scientifically validated healer and best-selling author to inquire about the Trivedi Effect®. Find your calm center, listen to spirit, and change your life for the best.