Having self-awareness means that you know yourself. You understand your habits, likes, dislikes, the way you view the world, and your needs. You recognize what you want in life and have an understanding of your emotional responses. Socrates’ famous quote, “know thyself” is a directive to develop self-awareness.
Self-awareness doesn’t solve your challenges in life, but it gives you an accurate starting point and allows you to develop a game plan for solutions. It helps you identify your strengths and weaknesses, making it easier to improve.
Self-awareness takes time to develop, but the benefits are well worth the effort.
Use these methods to develop greater self-awareness:
- Keep a journal. A journal is a powerful tool for learning about yourself. Spend 15 minutes each evening recording your life. List the meaningful things that happened that day. Include your challenges and what you think caused them. Ask yourself:
- What did you do well?
- What did you do poorly, and what could you do differently if this happens again?
- What changes do you want to make? How will you make those changes?
- Review your past and current relationships.
- Why did your past relationships end? Review your romantic and platonic relationships that didn’t work out. Why did they fail?
- Do you tend to repeat the same cycle with each relationship? Look at your beliefs surrounding relationships – truth or delusion.
- Now, consider your current relationships. What challenges do they face? What do you bring to each relationship, positive and negative? What qualities do you like in a friend or partner? What qualities do you avoid? Why?
- What are your biggest regrets?
- When did you make poor decisions in your lifetime?
- Why did you make those choices?
- What makes these are regrets rather than successes?
- What would you do if you could go back and do it again?
- Which challenges in your life are constant? Most of us have a struggle that persists. It might be our weight, finances, loneliness, depression, or a pervasive lack of satisfaction.
- The issues that persist in your life are important to understand. You have the power to change nearly anything, so why does that one challenge in your life always seem to hang around?
- Meditation allows you to observe your thoughts without judgment. You can learn a lot about yourself by the thoughts that pop up in your mind. Meditation allows you to learn how to create space between your thoughts and your emotions. Pay attention to those thoughts and consider the tasks that pop up as incomplete.
- View your life through the eyes of someone else. Imagine you were an invisible stranger that observed your life for a week. What would you think? What advice would you give yourself? What does the way you spend your time say about you?
- Think about how you deal with stress.
- How do you handle stress?
- Do you eat, drink alcohol, get sleepy, become grumpy, watch TV?
- How do you treat others when you’re stressed?
- What challenges have you caused for yourself by dealing with stress poorly?
- Ask your friends for feedback. Ask your friends to describe you – to list your strengths and weaknesses. Plead with them to be honest.
- List your goals, values, and priorities.
- What do you want to accomplish?
- What life do you want to live?
- What is important to you?
- If your life were perfect, how would your day go?
Self-awareness is one of the most important things you can possess. The key to enhancing your life is grounded in self-awareness. Self-awareness is important to setting goals and creating the life you would most enjoy.
Without self-awareness, you will repeat your mistakes for the rest of your life.
Most of us are pretty good at figuring out what makes a friend or family member tick. It’s much more challenging to develop the same understanding of yourself. The one constant in your life is you; it would be a shame not to have a high degree of understanding of yourself.
To find out about the Trivedi Effect® and how it can help you find your gifts and develop your self-awareness, contact scientifically validated healer and best-selling author, Inthirani Arul.